Category: My Kids

So Kethry asked me to go to the park.  So we walked to the park and they played on the playground as the sun began to set.


Haplo decided he did not want to cooperate with picture taking. I caught him doing the zombie. Kethry as always tried her best to be photogenic.


The trees in this park are amazing. Since it is spring there is all manner of tree sex going on.


There is this really coll tree in the park. The perfect place to take some pictures. Makes me want a digital SLR..


Spring is in full swing and natuee is having lots of sex.  Seriously though, sometimes you just have to take a moment and enjoy nature and smell the flowers.


Saw these on the way home. The diversity of flowers and plants here is amazing.


I saw these two dogs leaving the park. They looked like walking teddy bears.





Today I had to pick Kethry up from school and it made me sad and angry at the same time but she was a trooper through it all. She gets that from me.

Today markes the start of Spring Break and last week on Tueaday was the Equinox that marks the period of time in the orbit of earth around the sun where our axis of rotation in relation to the sun makes the day and night cyclea equal. Thia happens twice each year marking the beginning and end of winter. The autumnal equinox an in the vernal equinox. These two datea have direct implications on our planet and the floral and fauna on it. If you are in to astrology Kethry and I share the same birthday and therefore we are both Pisces in European Astrology. We are Roosters or Cocks in Chinese Astrology. Take it with a grain of salt much like that idiot that does crossing over. What utter bullcrap. So I spent the day driving around with Kethry and now we are at her weekly martial arta class. I cannot remember how to spell the name correctly. She is so adorable packed with charm and charisma and personality.


She really likes to have her picture taken because I always tell her she is beautiful and show her the pictures.

I turned 43 this year Dad.  It’s been 12 years since I talked to you last and the world was a different place and I was still finding myself.  I know you may think that I didn’t really need you as I became a man, but the reality is I was a man the day I left home.  The man you made of me and you did such a good job Dad.  You prepared me for that period of my life, for surviving on my own.

Now, I am a father and I’ve come to the place where you where when you started to raise me.  This is the time where I once again need you Dad, but now I need you in a different way.  You see, I am a Dad now and I need to talk to you about being a Dad.  I need pointers, advice and I need my Dad.  Look, you raised a sharp kid and I understand all those things I didn’t back then.  I have always wondered how you dealt with Mom and I never doubted how much you sheltered me from the full impact of my mother.  She’s passed on Dad, not that it should matter in our relationship.

I need to tell you this Dad, I need you to understand who I am because I need to thank you.  You may not have been my father but you were my Dad.  You are what I think of when someone talks about there Dad.  I learned through you how I should act, what kind of man I should become Dad.  You were my hero and I never wanted to let you down so I made sure I never got myself in trouble.  I avoided doing something stupid and getting arrested because I never wanted to have to tell you I was sorry through a glass window.

Now that I am older Dad, and I have a son who is just like I was Dad.  Now I need your wisdom and knowledge again because I need you listen to me Dad.  This is the stage in our lives when I am supposed to come and visit and we are supposed to share a beer and we are supposed to laugh about how stupid I was as a kid.  Then when I tell you about Haplo, my son, you will remind me how I was like that too.  I miss and desire your counsel Dad.

Hopefully one day somehow this entry will get read to you like a letter and you will see me out and we will get to talk on the phone.  You have 3 other kids and 5 grand kids with a 6th one on the way and I think they would all really love to hear from you again Dad.


Kethry drew this map which she says shows the way to Grandpa’s house.  The lower purple shaded area is our town with the yellow section being our house and the violet section being Grandma Crystal’s house.  The green squiggle are the mountains on the way to SF and the green circle is treasure island with the bridge to San Francisco. Finally the purple circle inside the yellow shaded area is Grandpa’s house.  I think Kethry is trying to tell me she wants to go visit her grandfather in San Francisco. Smile

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Grandpa’s House

Since Rachel worked behind the scenes of the show she was invited to the after show Auction which is held to benefit some charitable cause.  This year the money was to be donated to the United States Association Of Reptile Keepers or USARK, the industry trade group for people who keep exotic reptiles which snakes and frogs are a part of.  in 2010 the California Department Of Fish and Game proposed to make changes to the laws which would make it illegal to Buy, sell, keep or give away turtles and frogs.  Thankfully through the tireless work of this organization these changes were not implemented.  The money from the auction tonight was for this group.

At first the idea for this ban on animals sounds amazingly right on the mark because the climate in California lends itself to helping invading species grab a foothold.  There are quite a few invasive species that were brought here during the gold rush by the settlers including red ear slider turtles and American Bullfrogs.  Of course they got out and multiplied in this fertile environment.  In the 70’s when there was an open season declared on the bull frogs and their extinction in California was eminent the legislature ironically acted to protect them.  Or so the speaker at the auction said.  Although it wouldn’t surprise me.

Since the kids got restless early and I had to go and pick up Rachel anyway, I decided if there was easy parking that I we would stay and go to the auction since it was being catered and we were invited.  When I got to downtown Sacramento, the first spaces I found had 15 minute limits and then I found one that I thought had a longer limit until I put money in the meter and the number didn’t go beyond 30.  I read and it was a 30 minute meter, right next to it was another spot that had a longer limit, except it used one of these new digital meters that takes credit cards and controls 6 other parking spaces as well.  So, since I was in for a penny, I went inside and met up with Rachel.

We traversed our way to the far side of the complex and up to the second floor to where the auction was being held.  It was being catered with little sandwiches held together with a tooth pick topped by an olive.  The sandwich consisted of a half a quarter slice of cheese, an equivalent slice of meat, a piece of lettuce the same size and a slice of tomato.  I am not complaining, it was after all, free food.  I just wonder in the back of my head how much the catering company was gouging for this food.  There was a bar and I soon learned that one beer and one cocktail amounted to $15.  You do the math.  That is gouging at it’s finest for a captive audience and Americans will buy alcohol no matter how over priced and this became more obvious as the auction progressed.

I must say that I was proud of my kids because for the most part there really was not much for them to do and they remained calm and watched the goings on with rapt attention once the auction began.  Kethry enthralled the gentleman sitting next to her and he took the tooth picks she was holding from the sandwiches we devoured and wove them together in to an amazingly cool looking pattern, held together by the pressure they exerted on one another.  Haplo had to have one too and the guy made him one.  They then had joyful fun taking them apart and trying their hardest to put them back together.  I couldn’t have bought a better toy and these were free.

As the auction began, the first item I was interested in was a complete vivarium with all the works.  This included heating, cooling, misting, water feature, everything but the creature to put in it.  About $650 in retail priced product.  Someone got it for $350, a but out of my price range.  The next thing was a similar setup by a company that specializes in this reptile enclosures complete with misting system and all the trimmings to setup a vivarium sans real plants.  This one went for $175, just outside of how much I was willing to spend on it since all I really wanted was the misting system.

There were lots of amazingly exotic snakes that were auctioned off as well as a giant bottle of absolute vodka.  Once that item went, the auction began to really ramp up.  I am not sure they were drinking it, but the people in back began to bid on things and ramp the prices up.  Rachel got a pair of corn snakes with some unique genetic traits and I got another red eye tree frog.  Then came the tiny little red ear slider turtle, which had the proposed legislation of passed along with my tree frog would have been illegal.  Needless to say he is swimming in his own little tank in the dining room.  Pictures of these amazing creatures will follow.

The hardest part of the night was making sure Haplo and Kethry didn’t just bid on something to participate.  They tried and we were quickly able to stop them before they were sold something we couldn’t afford.  Their behavior was still amazing and they were quiet and respectful through the entire ‘boring’ thing.  Although Haplo took great delight in seeing all the different snakes and animals.

How does one end the perfect night?  How about dinner at IHOP where the kids got to eat for free.  We got there at 9:15pm and they had Rooty Tootie Fruity things while Rachel had breakfast with ‘Cinabun’ coating and I had Country Fried Steak.  Our waiter was attentive and on the ball which made it a delight to eat there.  The food was about what one would expect but the fun with my family was really where it all paid off.  Seeing Haplo and Kethry enjoy the treat of fruit covered pancakes was just cool.  It was even cooler when Kethry said ‘Daddy, please cut this for me” indicating her pancake which she had tried but failed to do.  As I took her plate “You’re the best cutter dad!”

The 2011 Sacramento Reptile Show is being held once again at the Sacramento Convention Center and is officially sponsored this year by PET’SMART.  The really cool part about this show is that if you visit Upscale Reptiles website, they have a coupon for $1 off a ticket for admission.  PET’SMART has a special coupon for $3 off the price of admission and is good for up to four tickets per coupon.  The show runs Saturday, October 29, 2011 10am until 5pm through Sunday October 30, 2011  10am until 4pm.  Besides vendors selling animals, there are private collections on display of amazingly healthy captive exotics from alligators to Sulcata tortoises.  Admission is $12 for 13 and older, 6 to 12 year cost $8 and children 5 and under are free.  The box office only accepts cash!


I am really baffled by the reality that in this modern age that a city owned venue like the Sacramento Convention Center would only accept cash at their box office.  Especially considering that the ATM in the lobby of the venue charges $5 per transaction to get cash.  There is a bank located at the end of the block diagonally opposite the Box Office that has an ATM that only charges $3 and there is a Credit Union located across the street from the Box Office.


Today was just not my day for being financially savvy as I seemed to make several mistakes that will cost me between $10 and $15 in regards to this show.  The first was not noticing the credit union across the street and using the bank ATM that charged me $3 in fees.  Patelco, the credit union I use instead of a bank will also charge me a small feel as well has reciprocal agreements with most other Credit Unions to share their ATMs fee free.  Add to that Kethry is 5 and I paid for a child ticket for her.  Rachel got me a PET’SMART Discount coupon so the total cost of the entry was $19, I paid an additonal $5 for Kethry.  Actually, I do not mind this really as in this case the ticket price goes to help Upscale Reptiles pay for the use of the Venue.  Since I love the show, I don’t mind paying for it really, I just hate the mindless bank fees.


So Rachel, got in for free since she is actually working the PET’SMART booth at the show.  The three of us, Haplo, Kethry and I all won small Kritter Keepers on the Prize Wheel!  We walked around looking and the show is dominated by Snakes and Tarantulas with a healthy assortment of lizards and turtles thrown in.  There were some frogs, but not nearly enough for this Frog Lover.  I did manage to score 3 tiny, baby Red Eye Tree Frogs.


So here is one of the Red Eye Tree Frogs I purchased, the penny was inserted to give you an idea of just how small they are.  They had albino ones but the price difference was just too much to justify purchasing them considering that I have had husbandry issues in the past and lost all the frogs in a colony.


This species of frog is nocturnal and they really do only wake at night, when most of the lights are out.  They live in the canopy of the rain forest where they hunt insects.  Their Agalychnis callidryas translates to Beautiful Tree Nymph which really is befitting I think.


I like this picture the best because you can see how they tuck themselves up in to a little ‘wad’ and sleep on the underside of leaves.  In this way most people would walk right past them without realizing they were there since they blend in with the underside of the leaf.


Finally, Haplo wanted an Emperor Scorpion and we have always made him wait because these creatures have a stinger and they can and will use it.  Haplo will turn 9 this year and he has come a long way in the last two years when it comes to taking care of his pets.   This will be the first real pet other then fish and roaches that we have allowed him to have on his own.  This isn’t the greatest picture and I will try and get a better one to replace this one with.

All in all it was a good show although I can tell that Chantix has a serious effect on my patience and on my anger threshold.  It really put me in a foul mood that the ATM’s wanted to charge such fees and I almost opted to just come home.  I realized that was a bit over the top reaction and how it would place all of it on Haplo and Kethry who really wanted to go to the show.  When I started to think about it, I really couldn’t understand why I was so upset to begin with and at the same time the craving for a cigarette hit like the munchies when going to an all you can eat buffet at 4:30pm.

Later, when Haplo wandered away and I was unable to locate him, I again noticed myself getting extremely angry over nothing and had to think about why I was getting so angry and how I was going to deal with it.  I think the next time we go I am going to make sure he has a Walky Talky or something like that so that we can communicate when he walks away.  I can’t really get upset with him for it because I did it when I was a kid and I usually left it up to my parents to find me.  The fruit really doesn’t fall far from the tree.

Sadly, it is times like these, when I have these realizations that I so wish that I could call my Dad on the phone or sit down and drink a beer with him and talk about it.  So that I could thank him for helping me to become the man I am and for not giving up on me when things got difficult like he could have.  I know I will probably never get to talk to him again or see him again but it doesn’t make me desire it any less.

So, I decided I wanted to move all my old blog posts about Haplo and stuff to one location and consolidate it with my old Windows Live Blog evicted to WordPress.  I am not sure I will post regularly or that I will have interesting things to post about.  So to celebrate, here’s a music video from a Southern Rock band called Rehab.